Tips on How to Write Personal Vows

What are personal vows?

They are promises or commitments you make to your partner during your wedding ceremony. They are unique and written by you, and they are to express your feelings for your partner, and your intentions and hopes for your marriage.

Writing your vows doesn't have to be overcomplicated, and you certainly don't need to write an essay. Just a few lines, from the heart, will be enough to tell your partner how much they mean to you.

They are promises or commitments you make to your partner during your wedding ceremony. They are unique and written by you, and they are to express your feelings for your partner, and your intentions and hopes for your marriage.

Reflection

Allocate some time to sit down by yourself with a cuppa or a glass of wine. Look through your camera roll to provoke memories and your feelings for them. 

Think about:

·      What your partner means to you

·      How do they make you feel 

·      What you love about them

·      Have they changed you in any way

·      The journey you’ve been on together

·      What do you promise for your marriage

·      What do you look forward to in your future together

Make notes as a spider diagram or bullet points; whatever works best for you. They can be serious or lighthearted... or a bit of both!

Writing your vows doesn't have to be overcomplicated, and you certainly don't need to write an essay. Just a few lines, from the heart, will be enough to tell your partner how much they mean to you.

Structure Your Vows

A good format might be:

Opening: A memory, quote, or simple statement of love.

From the Heart: What you love about your partner and your relationship.

The Promises: Specific, meaningful commitments ("I promise to...").

The Future: Hopes, dreams, or how you’ll face challenges together.

Closing Words: A final affirmation of love.

Use Your Voice

Write the way you speak. You don’t need to be poetic or perfect - authenticity is more powerful than fancy words.

Keep It Balanced

Aim for 1–2 minutes when read aloud. You can agree with your partner on a general length to keep things even.

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I offer my couples a complimentary video call or in in-person meeting to go through your personal vows. Whether you stuck on what to say, or need a little bit of guidance with public speaking, I'm here to help.

If this sounds like something you'd like to have in your wedding ceremony, please feel free to get in touch and see if I'm available.

Love Claire xxx